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November 9, 2009

M!C Check: Malcolm X Marks the Spot That is NOT Reserved for the Kids

So, I like to stay abreast, a leg, & a thigh of current issues as well as my history...even if mainstream media & BET are bent on making me believe that slavery happened, Martin had some dreams, and now Frankie & Neffie are the great American Dream that yielded civil rights & 'ish.


SIDENOTE: This angers me. Sammy Sosa, self-hate is not the new black or Cuban or Colombian or [Insert your race here].

P.S. Is the vampire look really catching on? I blame Twilight.

I swear fo' the Holy High Priestess of the Lacefront that if vampire people get equality before I do, I will blow up the moon. Wait. NASA's already doing that. On to the next one...


Speaking of rights, I read (yes...I do that on the regular because I pretend to be educated) an article over at HipHopWired.com. Actually, my homegirl Greasy aka my Google Reader suggested that I take a look at some homophobic ass article about Malcolm X. Now, I know Meezy X Baby repped for all that was militant and anti-hoodwinked & bamboozled. But, the article is a response to yet another article in the UK Guardian by Peter Tatchell that states that Meezy may have liked the menses.

*gasp* Clutch the pearls...& the kofi!

It's all speculation. But the writer Jordan C. Alston of the HipHopWired.com article says (his words have been italicized):

One of our most proud Black leaders does not need to have his legacy besmirched, added to annals of unspoken, discredited Black leadership, all because one man is mad that he can't "marry" his old roommate from college.


To this I say: Mr. X's legacy & his great work will not be repealed if it comes to light that he was indeed gay/bisexual/bicurious. If anything, this new information about his life will offer more depth to the great diversity that is Black community, just as Tatchell notes.


The struggle by Black Americans for Civil Rights is not the same as the LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender) fight for the "right" to marry, and I am sorry for those that believe they are related in any way.


To this I say: No, the Black American struggle for civil rights is not the same as the LGBT struggle for civil rights (which by the way consists of more than me marrying my partner...please see DADT, ENDA, & DOMA). The two struggles originate from different worlds. BUT, civil rights are civil rights & they should be fought for by all of us for all of us by any means necessary. Please note that I, a GAY BLACK MAN, did not destroy or discredit Mr. X's phrase. Thanks & on to the next one.


Bottom line, Malcolm X was an imposingly powerful and brilliant man in life, and he has surpassed legendary status in death. No man can take that away from him. Peter Tatchell is the worst kind of scum bucket, bottom-feeding, troglodyte resembling trash!


To this I say: No. Not one person gay or straight can take Mr. X's legacy from him or from the Black community or America's history. However, calling Peter Tatchell a "scum bucket, bottom-feeding, troglodyte resembling trash!" (Note to Alston: 'faggot' would have been much easier to muster) is immature & offensive to say the least. He is offering--via sources that he has referenced--simply a different perspective. He & those that agree with him are simply proposing the possibility that history isn't always made apparent in its totality when we CHOOSE to lay it to rest. History has been revisited to reveal great things that have aided in our progression as a people. I'm sure Emmett Till's family appreciates our re-imagining & re-visiting of the events that led to his murder. Let's not forget that James Byrd name is on the first major piece of LGBT legislation signed by our government. As far as reports show, he did not identify as LGBT, but if we later find out that this is true, our history as Black people will be linked to yet another permeation of the Civil Rights Movement, today known as the Gay Rights Movement...so that people like you can feel comfortable in your own ignorance that blacks are the only people to require civil rights. Please note that blacks are still fighting the injustices of slavery & Jim Crow, so to deny someone else rights that you should readily know are precious and fundamental to human existence is inhumane.


As*hole. . .


To this I say: Yes, Jordan C. Alston, you are. But the LGBT community will allow you that freedom.


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October 5, 2009

Sunday Inspirations on Monday: Be Encouraged

Wanted to share this with you. The past week has weighed heavily on us all. Cling to the truths that lie in this post.

Know that it's Monday. Today is a new day. And although the world gives us every reason to want to hold on to yesterday's pain, yesterday's struggles, it is imperative that we reach & claim today's blessings & joy.

You are loved,
m.

 
 

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via Electronic Village by noreply@blogger.com (Villager) on 10/4/09

Iya sent this to me a few years ago. It spoke to me this morning as I re-read it. I thought other villagers might find strength from it as well.

In today's society, we need all the encouragement we can get!


Lord, I'm disappointed in myself. I don't like what's happening inside me. I'm up and then down. When I listen to an uplifting Bible teaching or I'm blessed by a scripture passage during my quiet time, I feel fine for awhile. I think, "I'm on my way to wholeness." I'm reminded of who I am with you and life seems wonderful for a little while, maybe even for a few days. I dare to hope I'll feel that way the rest of my life. Then one day I suddenly realized that my wonderful confident feeling has disappeared like the morning dew, and I'm down again. The pattern keeps repeating itself. A Christian ought not to be like this. What can I do about it?

Dear Child, You are putting unnecessary oughts on yourself. Who says a Christian shouldn't be like this? Allow yourself to be human. You're still living in a fallen world. You know, you still live in a human body and subject to its limitation. Instead of being down on yourself when you feel less than yourself, encourage yourself with the thought that just as painful circumstances never last, neither do such feelings. They're always temporary. Life has it hurts and its interruptions, but it always picks up again, and you are wiser and stronger for your experiences. You are growing and changing constantly. You're not the same as you were yesterday, last week, last year or 10 years ago. It happens so gradually that you're not aware of it. But growth is not necessarily steadily forward. That's alright; I accept you as you are.

Since you know your feelings are changeable, don't pay to much attention to them. Instead of trusting in your feelings, put your anchor in Me. I never change, I am always dependable. My purposes are eternal, unchanging, and perfect. The plans of the Lord stand firm forever, the purposes of His heart through all generations. (Psalm 33:11)

When you're feeling down, you have difficulty being aware of my presence. The enemy would like to use that to keep you from communing with me. Don't let his suggestions affect your devotional life. I am as near you when you feel I am a million miles away as when you're rejoicing in My presence I never leave you.

Precious child, do you realize it's when you drive yourself the hardest that you're most prone to gloomy feelings. Give yourself a break. Allow yourself to do things just for fun. Stop taking yourself so seriously. The earth won't stop turning if you fail to get everything done in a day. Even Jesus didn't work all the time. He took time to go fishing with His disciples. He called them aside to rest. He relaxed in the home of Mary and Martha. He enjoyed a wedding party. Stop feeling guilty for your feelings. Remember that no one escapes occasional times of low spirits. Look at your shadowy times as opportunities for greater trust in me. Refuse to struggle over anything you have no control over. When your commitments become too much for you, give yourself permission to say no. The world won't fall apart.

Remind yourself that I'm in charge. Rest in the knowledge that I am with you. Nothing can happen without my consent. You are my responsibility.

Join the psalmist in declaring "You O Lord are a compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness." (Psalm 86:15) Bear that in mind, that every time you are tempted to give into gloom. Your feelings are OK but don't let them order you around. Remember that you can't always be sure of your feelings, but you can always be sure of my love, and faithfulness. That's what matters most.

"There's no such thing as failure, only results...
with some more successful than others." ~~Jeff Keller


Sunday Inspirations is the meme created by Sojourner in honor of her Mother. This is just one way to help get us through the week ahead, the trials we may face, and yes, to say Thank Ya and testify! I hope that you participate and share with us your Sunday Inspirations. Your weekly contribution may very well be the inspiration that someone else may need and has been looking for.

The Rules:
  1. Anyone can participate.
  2. You may post a video, poem, religious verse, song, story, picture, ANYTHING that has given you inspiration and the motivation to go on. Just make sure not to offend anyone.
  3. Add your name to the meme list so others can be inspired.
  4. Be and get inspired and be sure to comment.



 
 

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October 3, 2009

Nelson Mandela Quote Used For Gay Marriage Plaque

I take issue with this NOT because it may continue to make a case for those saying that the gay community is infringing on the black community's struggle ("my plight is worse than your plight"); rather, it sends a message to the world that the gay community is a big ol' melting pot...when in actuality the gay community is the WHITE gay community...until black gays votes are needed to negate Prop 8. SIDENOTE: Black gays were all kinds of n-words & expletives the day after Barack was elected POTUS & Prop 8 passed. The Black Penis does it again!

 
 

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via (title unknown) by www.blackgaygossip.com on 8/25/09

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The West Hollywood City Council plans to unveil a plaque in honor of gay marriage, inscribed with a quote from continued activist and former South African president Nelson Mandela.  The plaque will be unveiled at its meeting on September 8th and then permanently installed at West Hollywood Park off North San Vicente Blvd.  The plaque will read: "I am not truly free if I am taking away someone else's freedom, just as surely as I am not free when my freedom is taken from me. The oppressed and the oppressor alike are robbed of their humanity."
West Hollywood Park was the site where many same-sex couples exchanged vows back in June 2008, when they were legally able to marry in California,  before the passage of Prop 8.
South Africa legalized gay marriage back in November 2006.

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The Blueprint 3 Gear: What Would Jesus Do?

Sacrilegious, much?

Meanwhile, the CHURCH can call me a faggot, condemn me to hell, pray for my redemption, & bar me from services...but Hova has these t-shirts & ain't nobody trying to march, peddle petitions, & call Congressmen & women?!

Dear CHURCH,
You fail.

Sincerely, m.

 
 

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via The Smoking Section by TC on 8/31/09

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Blasphemy

If for whatever reason you've recently caught Blueprint 3 fever, Jay-Z's camp wants to make sure you're properly clothed for the occasion.

Prices range from $30.00 a shirt to bundle packages for the men at $85.00 to and $60.00 for the women. Too rich for your blood? There's always the Smoke Shop.

[Via]


 
 

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LEVAR BURTON'S 'READING RAINBOW' CANCELED: PBS pulls plug on show after 26 yrs

Frankie & Neffie
Real Housewives of Atlanta
BET

PBS, you fail with this choice. Good day.

 
 

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*PBS has decided that it is over the "rainbow." The once popular "Reading Rainbow," hosted by LeVar Burton, aired its final episode Friday, wrapping a more than two-decade run of teaching kids how to read.

 
 

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Donald Trump Says Boycott Kayne West

Dear Mr. Trump,

Why do you want me to boycott Kanye West? His actions were bad. He has apologized. He admits that his passion for his art, partnered with lack of rest & little time to grieve the loss of his late mother Donda West, aided in his poor choice. Carrie Prejean, remember her? Yeah...she was the Miss America contestant that you fought to stand behind even though she stood before the nation & ridiculed me & those like me. You allowed her to apologize & eventually step down ONLY after semi-nude pics of her surfaced. Yet you still haven't called for a boycott of her. She's still parading her anti-gay "passion."

Sir, I know you make millions of dollars an hour, so I'm not here to tell you how to do your job. However, I would like to see the criteria you're using to decide who deserves to be boycotted & who does not.

Sincerely, m.

 
 

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via LOVEBSCOTT.COM by B. Scott on 9/14/09

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Well we all knew it was only a matter time before Donald Trump had something to say about Kayne West's MTV VMA outburst last night. Trump is calling for a boycott of all things Kanye West because of his "disgusting" antics last night.

Trump wants everyone to boycott Kanye "so this kind of thing doesn't happen again." Trump also thinks Kanye's outburst wasn't to honor Beyonce. "He couldn't care less about Beyonce. It was grandstanding to get attention."

What Kayne West did was igornant and wrong but would you go that far?


 
 

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MCGRAW THINKS KANYE NEEDS AN 'A**-WHOOPIN': Country star says his daughters ...

I know this is late, but am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable with this sentiment coming from a man with a cowboy hat?

It's not racist. But...

 
 

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*Country superstar Tim McGraw has joined the national conversation surrounding Kanye West and his actions at the MTV Video Music Awards.

 
 

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September 19, 2009

Dawn Richard at Carson's Live: Putting Dallas on the Train tracks


"Show 'em how to move in a room full of vultures," blasted from the speakers of the Carson's Live dance floor on last Friday night. A truer sentiment could not have accompanied the demure Ms. Dawn Richard. One-third of the new Sean "Diddy" Combs trio Dirty Money, Richard's petite frame and new short haircut walked into Carson's Live without an entourage, without a show. As the night progressed, I would find out later that the pomp & circumstance that we've come to associate with many of Combs' artists isn't the first choice of accessory for this artist.


It was the last Friday night of summer, and none of us wanted to let go. We had new money in the bank, and Dirty Money was in the building. I ventured my way into the VIP section as the DJ rocked the vintage Bad Boy Records hit "Mo' Money, Mo' Problems." Barely out of a recession, the irony of the crowd bouncing to this song pulsed with our memories of better times. I watched as Dawn Richard posed for photos with her fans, even migrating onto the dance floor--with little to no security--to show love and appreciation for the crowd. She smiled and hugged club-goers. Her presence and warmth grew with each click and flash. Then it happened. Richard made her way to the stage to introduce the latest track from the Dirty Money project Last Train to Paris.

"Love Come Down," required no introduction. The heavy bass and bells prepped the crowd. It was time to board the Train. What was most amazing is the trance-like energy emitting from the speakers the moment the track began. "Babe," Richard sings, "you got me caught up in this love game/the funny thing is that I don't mind playin'/I'm in it for the win so what you sayin'/I'm ready..." And so was the crowd. "Love Come Down" features Richard and her fellow female Dirty Money member Kaleena Harper longing for love, the kind that makes you feel 'strange', Harper sings.




As I boarded the Last Train to Paris, my first stop was "Love Come Down." I handed my ticket to my conductor, Diddy. As I grabbed my seat, I saw a familiar face--Dawn Richard. Her honeyed voice assured me that though the ride would thump like 808s, the journey--the lyrics--would be worth the trip.

I asked her, "Is Dirty Money worried about alienating their core audience (i.e. fans of the hit television show "Making the Band" & the successful female pop group Danity Kane)?"

"No," she answered confidently.

This reply was not one of arrogance, but rather one of passion and a sincere trust in the talent and art of Dirty Money.

She went on to say, "If it's ten people that understand and love what we're doing...then that's ten people that will support us, that will love us. That's who this project is for. This is something new. This isn't commercial. This is not about numbers and sales. This is about a movement."

And move we will.

Described by Combs as an "electro-hip-hop-soul funk" album", Last Train to Paris is scheduled to be released in November 2009.

All aboard!

**Special thanks to Arthur Johnson & the Carson's Live personnel for all of their hard work and hospitality. Also, thank you to the event promoter AJ who coordinated a street-savvy event while still making it classy.**



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September 10, 2009

For Wetter or For Worst: Suga Mamas, Baby Mamas, and the Daddies

 
Recently I had the pleasure of meeting Anastasia, an HIV positive orphan from Africa who is touring the United States with her foster parents as part of an HIV/AIDS awareness seminar held for some of my students and fellow military co-workers. After a rather long (ok...too long) presentation explaining the urgency for HIV/AIDS prevention in America and Africa, Anastasia was still bubbling with curiousity and as she stood holding her foster mother's hand, her eyes soaked in all of the trendy and not-so-trendy clothes and sneakers. The weaves, the mohawks and afros, the grills and business suits. The skinny jeans and hoodies. Wearing I brown and gray vest with peppered charcoal slacks and leather brown boots, I stood watching a little girl who could have very well been my sister (who just began her first year of University! Shoutout to my Babygurl!...and while I'm at it...shoutout to Pookie 'nem!). Anastasia walked over to me.
 
"Hello," she said. I was amazed at her eye-contact and confidence. She understood her purpose here (as a youth ambassador), but she was still a little girl. 
 
"Hi, there." I picked her up in my arms. "I like your dress," I said. My name's Michael."
 
 
"My name is Anastasia Rumello Bonswa." She giggled.
 
"Why what are you laughing at? I know I look funny, but you don't have to laugh in my face," I poked fun. 
 
SIDENOTE: Let it be very clear that the only thing funny about how I look is my sense of humor. I am the cat's pajamas.
 

Anyhoo, I waited for Anastasia to answer.
 
"You eyes are pretty," she said, pointing at my clean brow line. (What? You ain't know? You betta ask somebody.)
 
"Thank you."
 
Well, at this moment I wanted to snatch this little ball of goodness and take her home so that she could compliment me every hour on the hour. I'd be her new KING foster friend. (I ain't even tryin' be a daddy, yet.) As we continued our conversation, she told me about what her foster mother was teaching her on the road as Anastasia is home-schooled while she travels with her foster parents.
 
SIDENOTE: This is mean...but, how can an orphan be home-schooled? 
 
Nevertheless, my students were released to head to class and of course cell phones and two-way pagers instantly emerged. Anastasia's ears would perk up as ring-tones played the latest songs. Then, it happened.
 
Speedy-tongued rapper Twista's "Wetter" sounded from one of my students phones. I was shocked and a bit embarrassed (This student is demure in class. *Luda voice*...lady in the streets, but a freak in da' bed?). But Anastasia started singing the chorus of the song, cooed by R&B newcomer Erika. My grandmother's spirit tingled in my right hand. I almost slapped the taste out this poor child's mouth for being what the neighborhood mamas call 'fast'. She almost lost her little Nigerian-life.
 
But (after composing myself) I said goodbye to Anastasia. She smiled and hugged my neck, then skipped off to grab the hand of her foster mother. I was teary-eyed. My cheeks were wet. It was such a privilege to meet such a beautiful young girl who had so much life even though her parents had abandoned her. Even though she was in a new and strange place. Even though America offered her images that her chocolate skin was not appreciated and that the texture of her hair was not welcome (props to her foster mother who obviously knew her way around some hair grease). Even though the song she was singing told her that daddy COULD GET IT WET WHEN IT COME TO CUTTING THAT MONKEY.
 
As I wiped my eyes, some questions ran through my mind:
 
1. How do I as an American and as a African American/Black man feel about a song that exploits the fetishism of father-daughter relationships?
 
2. If this song has made an impression on this young girl from Africa, how are American girls affected by this type of media? (I know the answer...duh:/) 
 
3.  Why do I still hum to this ridiculousness on my radio?
 
4. Why are grown women lookin' for daddies?
 
5. Why are grown men wanting to be called 'daddy', but don't wanna be daddies?
 
These and other questions plagued my mind as I walked to my office to jam to some Beyonce aka B'Cakes as I finished some blogging work.
 
 
"Suga Mama" came on and as the kids say,  I went in. Come to think of it, Weezy F. Baby & Drake say goin' in. Hrmmmm? Yes, homo.
 
Then it hit me. As much as B'Cakes is my boo twice removed on my daddy's uncle's sister's step-daughter's side, Ms. Knowles-Carter is perpetuating this notion  of grown folks wanting to play house. 
 
I rep for Yonce' the world around, however, if the Queen bee is susceptible to this conundrum, it's obvious a problem. Seriously, if it effects Bee, it effects me.
 
SIDENOTE: This will be on t-shirts for her 2012 campaign.
 
Media tells us to be pimps and bosses, dime bitches and gutta chicks. Yet, owning legitimate businesses where one can be a boss in the traditional sense is frowned upon. If you're a dime, how can you expect to get out of the gutter? And the Maury Povich Show is a daily testament to the fact that don't NOBODY wanna be a daddy. Being a babymama and being a real housewife is just another ho on the payroll. Weekly, 1.8 million people or more applaud BET's Tiny and Toya, while the un-Real Housewives of Atlanta 'nem tells us that what our mothers do on a daily basis is not real. Waking up and cooking breakfast, kissing the kids and the hubby goodbye for a day on the job, dealing with them scallywags co-workers, running errands, only to return home to cook dinner while helping with homework, then perform her best acrobatics for her mister is not real...enough.
 
Words matter. Asking will someone be your daddy or mama is such a loaded question. Titles like 'husband' and 'wife' connote a sacred connection, not a business transaction. Gay men and women everywhere are fighting for words.
 
And sadly,
 
  • Every 15 SECONDS, another child becomes an AIDS orphan in Africa
  • Every DAY 5,760 more children become orphans
  • Every YEAR 2,102,400 more children become orphans (in Africa alone)
 
 
 
Now...
 

 
 Tell me...how wet are you now?


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Fat is Wack: The Health Care Chronicles

 

Now I work out. Actually, I work out, in, up, down, & through in order to
maintain my less than 8% body fat, 150-pound frame. Vanity aside, I find
the media's scare-fest concerning our nation's health is annoying. Obama has
been pushing health care reform since the primaries. Many of his opponents
didn't think he'd win the election, so I'm sure that in hindsight, the fears
they are boasting are the consequence of them not taking his campaign
seriously. However, he's also been pushing 'gays are our friends' rhetoric
and the gay community is still being told to sit down or rather "Don't Ask,
Don't Tell." That aside, I don't believe that I've received the truth or
even some credible evidence that what Obama is suggesting is bad: health
care for the citizens provided by the government.

I agree with
re_rage/?ln> Eugene Robinson: "It's scandalous and immoral that the richest,
most powerful nation on earth callously ignores the fact that 47 million
citizens lack health insurance."

AND IT IS SCANDALOUS. But much of the outrage against Obama's health care
plan is rhetorical. He used the word 'reform', & this is what we hear: "This
uppity-negro tryin' tell me how to spend Aunt Bertha's 'showance (insurance)
money. I ain't even tryin' to hear dat."

[Feel free to insert your own dialect. In my head, I often sound like the
stereotypical, neck rolling, finger-snapping homegirl from up the block.*The
More You Know*]

I came across America's Health Rankings (
.pdf> click for more info) and basically.we ain't healthy. So, why wouldn't
folks want the government to grant us access to being healthier? This is the
government who can ask for billions to help bomb terrorists. This is the
same government who can ask for billions to seek life explore the moon, and
Mars, and life NOT on earth. Yes, kids, why wouldn't we want the government
to spend some of that cash on, I dunno, US.



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